When you are wrong admit it, and when you are right shut the fuck up.
Learn how to fight. What you fought about in the past, stays in the past. Don’t dredge old shit up. Calm your self down, figure out why you are angry and come up with a reasonable solution and be prepared to compromise on that solution. Don’t EVER say anything that will come to regret.
Leaving, moving out, separating, whatever, means YOU ARE DONE. There is NO going back from that. This is not to be used to get what you want and have him crawling back to you or whatever stupid shit reason there was.
You will fall out of love. The trick is not to fall out of love at the same time. This is not Disney, there is no fucking prince coming to sweep you off your feet. This is a partnership, when one is down the other picks you up and visa versa. Shit will go wrong, that’s okay. Just deal with it learn from it, laugh about it. Marriage is an adventure with ups and downs.
Learn to compromise. If something really means something to your partner, figure out how to do it. And if it’s not possible, accept it and wait until it is. I want to live by the ocean, but we’re not throwing our careers away for it, just waiting for the right opportunity. He wants to be a mad scientist one day, he knows he has to wait until we move out of our condo and have a garage.
I need to remember these for next time. (Ok, Thx, Reddit.)
Three of the four elements are shared by all creatures, but fire was a gift to humans alone. Smoking cigarettes is as intimate as we can become with fire without immediate excruciation. Every smoker is an embodiment of Prometheus, stealing fire from the gods and bringing it on back home. We smoke to capture the power of the sun, to pacify Hell, to identify with the primordial spark, to feed on the marrow of the volcano. It’s not the tobacco we’re after but the fire. When we smoke, we are performing a version of the fire dance, a ritual as ancient as lightning.
Does that mean that chain smokers are religious fanatics? You must admit there’s a similarity.
The lung of the smoker is a naked virgin thrown as a sacrifice into the volcano.
3:00 p.m. rise 3:05 Chivas Regal with the morning papers, Dunhills 3:45 cocaine 3:50 another glass of Chivas, Dunhill 4:05 first cup of coffee, Dunhill 4:15 cocaine 4:16 orange juice, Dunhill 4:30 cocaine 4:54 cocaine 5:05 cocaine 5:11 coffee, Dunhills 5:30 more ice in the Chivas 5:45 cocaine, etc., etc. 6:00 grass to take the edge off the day 7:05 Woody Creek Tavern for lunch-Heineken, two margatoes, coleslaw, a taco salad, a double order of fried onion rings, carrot cake, ice cream, a bean fritter, Dunhills, another Heineken, cocaine, and for the ride home, a snow cone (a glass of shredded ice over which is poured three or four jiggers of Chivas) 9:00 starts snorting cocaine seriously 10:00 drops acid 11:00 Chartreuse, cocaine, grass 11:30 cocaine, etc, etc. 12:00 midnight, Hunter S. Thompson is ready to write 12:05-6:00 a.m. Chartreuse, cocaine, grass, Chivas, coffee, Heineken, clove cigarettes, grapefruit, Dunhills, orange juice, gin, continuous pornographic movies. 6:00 the hot tub-champagne, Dove Bars, fettuccine Alfredo 8:00 Halcyon 8:20 sleep
Source: Carroll, E. Jean (2011-10-04). HUNTER: The Strange and Savage Life of Hunter S. Thompson (Kindle Locations 196-221).
“If we go back 25 years, there was a lot more intolerance in the vegan world,” Moby said. “There was a lot more militant us-and-them approach. And that, to a large extent, seems to have fallen by the wayside, both from a vegan perspective and from the non-vegan perspective. Vegans are perfectly happy now, for the most part, to hang out with people who don’t agree with them 100 percent And maybe one or two nights a week, carnivores seem pretty happy to go to a vegetarian restaurant.”
NYT, Can Vegans and Carnivores Get Along? Moby Thinks So
Moby, this is lovely.
For me and just about all vegetarians I know, it is absolutely not about being militant; it is about having productive discussions concerning different elements of vegetarianism: animal rights, the health of our environment, the health of our bodies, and making the right decisions. I strongly feel that being vegan and having dedication to this cause is entirely right for me, and I understand that this is my own personal way of living. Some people I have talked with aren’t concerned about these topics, or find any issue with being a carnivore. But really, the people I am closest to and call friends - vegans and carnivores alike - the thread that ties them all together is understanding and awareness to not be ignorant about their decisions.
I think if progress is to be made for the well being of our planet, our bodies, and other creatures in this world, this trend needs to continue. I understand striving to make a point by being loud and splashing paint and demonstrating in front of expensive stores - it definitely does get you noticed. It also alienates. When people feel threatened about their choices, they get defensive, and they stop listening with an open mind. We all have to work together and be understanding to get somewhere. This can’t be done with a view of it’s us vegetarians vs. those carnivores; it’s threatening, and a battle you can’t win. In general, about everything in life, befriend people and talk. These issues are gigantic and desire an open, ongoing discourse. We are not off the wall extremists when we are vegetarian, we are empathetic and loving. We do this first and foremost out of love, and that needs to be the centerpiece we focus on.